Speaking to women and having an interactive session with them yesterday, it became obvious that a good number of women are yet to understand and include the word, “submission” in their dictionary. A woman told me she is tired of hearing her husband talk about her not being submissive. And I said to her, that’s because he hasn’t seen the submission.
The Holy Spirit helped me in teaching her as she immediately came up with this very issue of wanting to wear her hair low whereas her husband wants it long. According to her, that’s what makes her feel comfortable and she isn’t ready to trade her low-cut for his choice.
When she finished, I told her I am in love with her hairstyle and you know what follows,”thank you Amara”. Then the teaching started: Your body ceases to be your body the very day you say ‘I do’.
Who are you keeping the hairstyle for? “For me” was her response.
I then told her that her husband is right when he says that she is not submissive. I told her how tired I am of my dreadlocks but still can’t take it off simply because my man is in love with it and wants me to wear it till next year. Now, this is submission. As long as I am in that relationship/marriage with him, I do it for him and not for myself or my friends.
I then told her that her husband is right when he says that she is not submissive. I told her how tired I am of my dreadlocks but still can’t take it off simply because my man is in love with it and wants me to wear it till next year. Now, this is submission. As long as I am in that relationship/marriage with him, I do it for him and not for myself or my friends.
You are the glory of your man. Tell me you don’t like what I am putting on and the first question you get is, “Are you my husband/boyfriend/fiancée? I told her to go home and try pleasing him. I told her to start by getting a wig and wearing it for him whenever they go out. I told her to wake him up very early this morning, around 4am and ask him to tell her everything he doesn’t like about her (other things I told her are strictly for women’s ears alone).
I talked to them about ladies having their family time at least once a week. You take your husband out, he must not be the one to take you out. Have fun with him.
I also talked about ladies developing the habit of buying things for their man. One of the participants told us she can’t as she won’t be able to buy the kind of things he wears. I told her that no matter how expensive her husband is, she should know the kind of boxer, singlet, and stockings he likes and get them for him. Ladies spoil your man once in a while.
You work outside the home Monday to Friday and on Saturday, you go from the place to place with “asoebi”. Then on Sunday, it’s house fellowship after morning service. Are you a mother/wife?
Another talked about her husband constantly wanting to hang out with her and she loves her quiet life and sleeping well at night. She said she followed him out severally but stopped after sometime and now the man is complaining. I told her to be grateful to God for giving her a man who wants to spend his evenings with his wife. I told her to brace up and start following her husband out.
Ladies, little things matter in relationship. You may think you are doing the right thing by buying into all the useless views of feminists and “flexing muscles” with your husband at home. You may think that you are showing how tough you are by being rude to men because you are a 21st century woman who believes in equal right.
I told my fellow women yesterday that human rights don’t work in marriage. It can only work when you are tired of the marriage and you want out. Just be a fool and fool into paradise. Let your friends call you ‘backward’ and ‘foolish’ I want to be a fool for the man who has chosen to love me despite my weaknesses. I choose to be a fool but have peace in my home.
I am not asking you to become a zombie, but please drop those feminist views and run away from anyone who puts those views into your head. You see so many of them running their mouth on social media and deceiving gullible and innocent girls; be wise. The man remains the head and any other thing contrary creates chaos.
Human wisdom destroys; only the Holy Spirit helps. You shouldn’t have gone into marriage in the first place since you love your rights and are willing to guard it jealously. But if you must be married, get ready for those rights to be trampled upon. If your husband doesn’t do it, his mother, brothers, or sisters will. And if you must fight for those rights, be ready to spend the rest of your life fighting.
Source: Amara Blessing
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