Mid-Week Message: Pregnancy Pressure In Marriage

We are talking about baby factories when it is the society that is responsible for this abnormality. A woman gets married and is put under unnecessary pressure for a baby. The pressure she is made to go through wont even allow her to conceive.

In-laws are on one corner making plans to bring in a new girl for their brother while the woman's family are on the other side with endless calls just to know if it has entered. A woman is made to feel worthless and useless just because there is no child. Why wont she go out of her way to get that baby?

A pastor's wife, somewhere in Ebonyi State had to fake pregnancy. This woman was sent abroad by her husband for delivery. On the very day she was to return, the seller of the baby had to meet her at Lagos Airport to hand over the baby. The husband who picked her up from Enugu Airport didn't have any idea what took place.

A day came that the baby became sick and wouldn't recover after series of hospital visits. The worried "father" took a decision to call in his pediatrician friend. Before he got to their place, the mother had to take the baby to the very clinic where she got the baby from. Medical examination was conducted and in the process, it was discovered that the baby was SS.


 The owner of the clinic had to inject the baby to death to avoid problems for herself and the poor woman. Don't ask me how true this story is; the younger sister of this very evil doctor told me about her blood sister.

Is this woman alone in this? Certainly no. Sure you have heard about POTA baby. When, in 2009, I wrote about it in my PM News column, some people told me I was lying. But thank God that recently, in 2013, it was in the news. I heard Dr. Julz talk about it on 99.3FM.

Are these women going to sleep with other men just because they want to be unfaithful? I know some if them are, but a good number of them cry afterwards. They are giving their bodies to other men due to societal pressure. Are they telling all sorts of lies to their husbands just because they are habitual liars? Certainly no.

Ask yourself this question: Am I one of those pushing women into what they shouldn't do? Am I one of those making it difficult for them to conceive even when there is nothing medically wrong with them? And you dear husband, how have you been treating your wife?

My heart goes out to every waiting mother reading this. Please don't let the society turn you to a monster. The fact is that they don't care about you and so it would be absolutely unnecessary to go out of your way to please them. I know its not easy. Waiting for just six months after my wedding to conceive, I know the number of calls I was getting daily. I feel your pain.

Be strong. The Lord will fight your battles. Your children shall someday surround your table like branches of olive. If you have to adopt, please do it the right way. Don't go on waiting and believing God. I know faith works. But I have seen a lot of waiting mothers conceive immediately after adopting a baby. Adoption gets your mind of the pressure of barrenness thereby making you more relaxed for conception to take place.
If you are one of those troubling waiting mothers, pray you don't come in contact with it.




Written by: Amara Blessing